A letter to her

Dear her

First of all let's address the elephant in the room. And before the gears in that mind of yours start grinding.. yes, i am talking about you. You are beginning to feel like a guest who visits too often and stays too long. That's why i felt it perfectly acceptable to dispense with the pleasantries.After all i know you so well. Even if i was to say i hope this letter finds you well, i know you are lurking somewhere nearby just raring to tell me the level of unwell you are today.

 The thing about you and me is we just as well could be one person but only one of us is wanted. And i guess im writing this letter to tell you that you are the one who's gonna have to go. No one likes you around here. Now don't take offense you probably think you are doing just fine. That's why you have to hear me out. 

There is so much good in you. I wish you had seen it before it came to this. You shouldn't have listened when they told you you were no good. You shouldn't have let what they thought of you be what you became.  But wow you are so beautiful, so strong, so capable... Has anyone told you lately? Just because you are the only one who seems to know doesn't make it any less true. So im telling you that you are amazing. Never forget that.




And now i will tell you about a little thing called hope. In fact let me start with grace. Stop trying to get what you deserve. Life is never fair. I know right now you are debating whether this is one those defeatist, negative things you say and have been trying to get rid of. And i commend you for that, keep at it. But right now i don't really don't know. But i know of the grace given to you. Love, you dont have to.. Good things will come for you, whether or not you think you deserve them. So stop trying so hard. And then hey, start trying where you had given up. They say you only receive the love you think you deserve but you've been promised more than you deserve. That's grace. So you need get past the past and this is where hope comes in. Things will change. You will change. For the better. Hope is that little thing with feathers, let your dreams take flight. If you are going to lose everything else, keep hope.

Fight. When you get tired, when you can't see any change, when you are told you can't, when its just so hard, when... When you've run out of excuses and all you want to do is lie down and take it easy. Get up and fight. If you get knocked down, get up again and fight. When you start thinking maybe its you who's not good enough, fight. Always, always fight. Fight until you get to the finish line.

Open your eyes dammit! Do not discount people because of one bad or elevate people because of one good. Things are not always how they seem.
So stop looking only at what is offered.           No matter how careful you are the people you love might still not love you back, the people you are there for might never be there for you, the people you are loyal to might stab you in the back. But if you see enough you
will know how to choose your battles so that even when you lose, you won't lose yourself too.




Love. Be patient. Be kind. Don't get jealous, or conceited or proud. Do not be ill mannered or selfish or irritable. Never keep a record of wrongs. Do not be happy with evil but be happy with the truth. Never give up. Love selflessly, tirelessly and stupidly. Love quietly in secret and love big. Love effortlessly and love hard. Love your God, your family, your friends and strangers. Love a love that moves and strengthens and comforts and protects. Love perfect!

And finally me.. I hope that every time you read this letter you will smile because you are further away from her and that much closer to i. Because i will be understood, respected, valued and loved. She will love herself warts and all. And she will be whole.

love always
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